However, if you’re looking at taking a huge chunk of the youth market and emerging young professionals, then you need to take a shot at using social media strategy to jump start your business.

Startups are not that easy, they are lean, they are hungry for success and they need to catch up with clients and keep a close eye on their industry. Many more internet startups are dying faster than traditional businesses and it is important to get to know what had been consistent thnigs that the few successful one did.

This infographic by some great guys at Udemy helps to summarise how social media can be used by startups to get off the ground.

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Have a clear social media strategy

Going online has gone far beyond the era of just developing a beautiful website. The evolving demand for online media marketing and social media engagement requires clear policies, guidelines and experienced staff that will involve employees in every aspect of your business operations – Human Resource, Customer Service, Branding and Marketing.

It also involves profiling your target audience before pouring resources into Facebook. Several PR tools will be useful in this regard. Don’t be busy spending money on ads if your audience is busy in traffic or with their phones.

Be prepared

Dealing with social media attacks require a robust crisis plan. Brand haters exist but unlike the past, a coordinated attack can easily be organized against a brand. Consider the Boycott British Airways campaign organized by the Nigerian Village Square and Respect Nigeria Coalition when officials of the UK Police forcefully ejected Ayodeji Omotade and about 136 other Nigerians from a Lagos bound flight from the UK. Thousands of online signatures were collated which later saw British Airways apologizing for its misbehavior.

When opening your brand to social media, you relinquish ownership of the brand, so before the case ever comes up you need to be sure if your agency has a community management expertise to avert or mitigate a social media crisis? Have a set of best practices been established? Think again.

Classify mud-slings and don’t fight dirty
Ok the deed is done and you have a crisis in your hands, what do you do? The next step is not to have a hurried response to your online audience. The next step is to determine the type of response necessary. It doesn’t matter the kind of crisis, one rule is critical – stay positive. Being bitter and negative about comments is the easiest way to expose your brand to bashing.
Some problems or complaints direct you to a particular challenge your customers are facing with your product/service, nicely thank them for bringing it to your notice and deal with it. If the comments are as a result of customers not understanding your methods and policies, you score a bigger point. Simply thank them and explain why you do it that way. You won’t take all suggestions, but be careful to win their loyalty and trust by being appreciative. But then some mudslings are downright dirty, they are designed to draw or bait you into an unnecessary I-am-right-get-lost fight thereby exposing you as inept and leaving your organization at the mercy of a community of angry comments and future readers of the page. Nescafe (international) will never forget this lesson when they multiplied their challenges by mishandling Facebook attacks during protests by members of Greenpeace.
Finally, in going social, always remember a Facebook page isn’t a social media strategy. Using social media engagement strategies includes identifying your brand personality, profiling your target audience and going to engage them. If your brand is hoping to leverage on social media, it should be ready to create new teams to proactively listen, learn and engage your customers in real time. Cheers

Though life is calibrated and measured in years and accomplishments, the outcome of those times will depend on the little details of our lives – in days, hours, minutes and seconds. The key to success in life is getting to do little things correctly, all the time, every time, so that the summation of our actions will yield a balanced, structured end result which is a brand of impeccable and sound quality.

Even in my work, where I demonstrate a passion for work and idea generation, I have come to appreciate that commitment to quality and relentless attention to details are essential hallmarks of excellence. Attentions to details save organisations a lot of time, frustration and money. Most organizations and people that have enjoyed the greatest success understanding that it takes hundreds of small, seemingly insignificant details repeated day in and day out to create an unforgettably excellent experience.

Lesson #1: Train your brain, but back it up

Some clichés become so common they often lose their significance like it is often said that the shortest pen remembers better than the shortest memory. I have thus learnt to carry notebooks about wherever I go. I have notebooks for my work plan, personal projects and ideas, meditations and church notes- and I use them.

It’s not that the devil is in the details, but that every detail we forget contain a seed that can potentially make the difference between success and failure. If the benefits of your work, prayers and efforts will be reaped, attention to detail is an absolute necessity.

Lesson #2: Write your life

Even when you have a notebook, make sure you put things down- the stupid, necessary and the critical. Most time we can’t track our progress because we don’t care to measure it by writing it down ab initio. It doesn’t matter the information, put it down (and keep sensitive details secure!). The reason why the history of global development is western is that Africans propagate history by word of mouth which eventually gets lost in transmission.

Lesson #3: Order

Anyway you look at it; they’re going to be times within your job or life where your attention to details will save you. One of the key issues to being exact is orderliness. Having an organized desk, room or life may seem minor, but when the outcome of a circumstance clean and organized desk it’s easy to find papers quickly. And just like your desk, the rest of your job should be organized and neatly projected that so that little things like going over budget don’t get by you.

Lesson #4: Do things immediately

One of the reasons we lose details is usually the ‘I will do it later’ syndrome. The idea that there is a convenient time to do things always makes us rely on our memories to keep us up to speed.

Putting off tasks till later is half leaving things undone.

Lesson #5: Learn how to do things right the first time

No matter what business or personal activities you are involved in, you will be confronted with greater challenges that could have been prevented if you had paid closer attention to the details in the first instance.

Lesson #6: these things are a reflection of your leadership and personality

I was told of someone applying for the post of a financial analyst who was called to an interview. The man was astute in his presentation and was heavy on pedigree, but he forgot his CV and credentials at the venue of the interview when he left.

Excellence in any endeavor is a production in which every little detail tells a story about one’s personality, commitment, and character. Pay attention to the small stuff. Consistent attention to details produces excellence and that’s why every detail counts!

“The magic behind every outstanding performance is always found in the smallest of details.”

I would really just want to know how you felt, what went through your mind, how you currently feel about the value system in Nigeria and how you intend to further tackle the issue of wrong values. I look forward to reading ur reply.

Thank you.

Sincere regards

xyz xyz”

As I read his mail, many things came into my mind. I remember the unending bad publicity about the double standards and scandals that have continued to rock most of the respected leaders in the society. From of Tiger Woods, Juanita Bynum, T D Jakes and Paula White to Nigeria’s respected leaders both in the political and religious sectors of the polity, we are fast losing role models to scandals- from sex to money.

So many thoughts have ran through my head as news and rumours have managed to form an odd mixture that continually batters the conscience of people who once believed in the few leaders who have managed to stand up to what is true. Why are these leaders failing?  Are there still true mentors? Here are my thoughts

Role models didn’t choose themselves – we chose them.

Mentoring is defined by someone whose behavior in a particular role is imitated by others. We choose them, we make them celebrities, we form our opinions of them through the things they have achieved, their pedigree, credentials and we develop and form an opinion of the code of life they should follow and when they intimately cannot follow them, we get disappointed and blame them for not being up to the standards.Role models are not necessarily mentors- we chose them because of what we heard, read and our opinions of them, then we can’t blame them for our idolizing them.

The best of men are still men at their very best

No matter how great a mentor or role model is, he/she is till man/woman at his very best. I was conducting an interview for someone two weeks ago and he made a profound statement. If there were no checks and balances, even a holy man can fail. I personally don’t idolise people and my Pastor totally abhors it. I’m pastored by Tunde Bakare and though I’ve been ministered to by him for over ten years, I still have a room for him to fail. The only problem we have is usually that we have equated some people to the nature of Christ himself. We listen and respect and learn from men, but ultimately we follow God. If your CEO, Pastor, Role Model falls, we don’t have to fall with them, pick up yourself and follow Christ Though as we move in life, we tend to focus less on the things we shouldn’t do and to focus on the things we should do; we still need to give men room for the frailty of the human nature. Broken promises, backstabbing, heart breaks are all a result of putting too much trust in the infallibility of the human nature.

Most times role modeling can be addictive.

When you’re a role model, the primary focus is on you- I mean people can’t have enough of you. You speak here and there and you suddenly think having moments in front of the large audience and microphone and are tempted daily to present the polished and structured part of their lives. But when you become a mentor, the primary focus is on your protégés. The time commitment of role modeling is simply the life you lead, with everyone free to observe. Your actions continually speak and everyone can consciously predict where you stand even when you have not spoken. The time commitment of mentoring is a personal involvement in the lives of a select group of protégés. As a role model, you say: “Here’s a way to live that you might want to emulate.” As a mentor, you say: “Here’s a way to live that you might want to emulate…and let me share the details of my journey.”

Role Models must mentor

While a role model is “someone whose behavior in a particular role is imitated by others” a mentor is a mentor is “a trusted counselor, guide, tutor or coach”. Mentoring is a progression of role modeling. Most times we chose mentors we do not have an idea of why they do the things they do, we only see them at their best- giving speeches, smiling on red carpets and well scripted books they probably never wrote a line of it. If role models communicate, they become mentors. Role models must share from their heart the things that have influenced their lives, how they have navigated the difficult choices of their lives (not only the ones that yielded results). People are not tending to find role models among the people they relate directly with and those who have the opportunity to influence their lives.

Finally we must communicate. Since our mentor-deprived generation is desperately searching for one, we hardly encourage peer communication as we even navigate our own challenges and even churches can be very guilty of this. Most times we talk about every thing except the things that matter to us. Look and search for a mentor, they may not have time, but create it. We need them, we need friends.

Selah.

The effect of the Global Economic Crises is closing in on Nigeria gradually. A recent report predicted that 18 percent of Nigerians would further be classified as being poor in 2009. That mean the gap between the poor and the rich will get wider still. But then, it is said that if the riches of the world were shared between the rich and the poor, in 30 years, those rich would still be rich and the poor would have returned to their normal position. Apparently, the poor and the rich seem to have habits that consistently make them remain in the same position. These habits would be analysed based on assets and liabilities. What is an asset? An asset is whatever you acquire that gives you money to maintain you and your purpose on earth, while liabilities are things you have that require more money to maintain them.

Those called rich are the people whose assets are more than their liabilities, while poor people have more liabilities than assets. What do the poor do so exceptionally well?

1. Value liabilities more than assets.

If you value liabilities more than assets, it is likely you would be poor if you are not already. If all you seek or aspire to have are all liabilities instead of assets, you are most likely poor. It is notable that more students and poor people use more good looking phones than rich people. Cars, clothes, phones are all liabilities and these are things most poor people aspire to have as a status of being rich.

2. Acquire liabilities with income.

Supposing you use your hard earned cash to purchase a car, don’t doubt it- a car is a liability, if we follow our previous definition above- except if you have a mobile shop. If income is directed at obtaining liabilities which requires more money to maintain them, then you have just bought a pipe through which all your hard-earned income would be drained. The issue with rich people is that they earn faster than they spend.

3. Spend income maintaining liabilities.

Definitely once the money is spent on acquiring liabilities, you would require more money to maintain or continue to use them. Poor people spend a large part of their earning maintaining the liabilities they have. Imagine having four cars, it requires more money to maintain the four cars, while assets make more money for you.

4. Spend and try to save leftover.

The spending pattern of the poor is also evident in the fact that once they earn some money they spend them on liabilities and save the left over. After expending all the money on liabilities, the little money saved would be used to settle the debts or costs incurred on maintaining the liabilities they have bought.

5. Save to expend on liabilities.

Poor people may have excellent saving culture, but they may spend it on liabilities. Imagine spending time and life going to work, and saving only to buy a car to use to go to work. A car may not be bad when you have assets in excess of the money you earn in a year.

When saving towards anything, be sure it is towards an asset that may bring more money into your pocket, rather than a liability that would take more from you.

6. Play today, pay tomorrow.

The mindset of delaying gratification is only found in the dictionary of the rich. A poor man/woman would prefer to enjoy the pleasantries of life as soon as some cash enters into their pocket, only for them to regret those decisions in years to come.

If you find a seventy year old woman begging on the streets, what readily comes to mind is to ask what she has been doing? There are too many cases of “have beens” in the earth, who are worth nothing today.

7. Their children inherit debt.

The thirst to acquire more and more might even drive some people to take loans from banks. Other people love to admire such; flashy cars, houses, glamorous clothes and accessories only for them to die and put their children in line for paying back debts owed or for credit card abuse

This is intended to x-ray our behaviours as we position ourselves on the way to the future. We should look at our habits and choices and have no doubt where we hope to end up.

It is important to know and recognize the vital signs of a relationship’s potential. When I meet people and we talk about whether a relationship should continue or die, I quickly discover that relationship don’t break suddenly, the danger signal begins blinking long before a break up is imminent but the people were not watching out for them. Those times were actually opportunities to restructure and recognize those threats before they threaten your marriage or relationship.

I am not a fan of broken relationships and I will never be a fan of divorce. But then there are some courtships, dating or love relationships that will have too drastic an effect. The greatest tragedy of a broken relationship is not the loss of the intimate relationship, it’s a broken heart. When we break up, we leave behind parts of us thereby entering into another relationship defective. It is therefore important to know when to hang in or work on it, and when to move on, to understand when conflict is healthy and when it is destructive.

Caveat! It is crucial to know there are no absolutes, especially when dealing with human behaviour. These are some of the vital signs I thought about, you are free to add yours to it. There might be trouble;

1. If God tells you it is wrong. There are times when we enter into relationships even though we know we know it is wrong, even when our friends tell us we are making a mistake, especially when it seems the person it too good to be true- it probably is. Somehow, those things come back to hang us by the wrists.
2. If there is no one, no value, and no being to which you both submit to. There might be fire on the mountain. It is essentially proven that for any relationship to succeed, the two individuals should not be the center of attention of the relationship, something else, you both value and that will not get tired- God, vision, value could be in the center.
3. If you aren’t thinking of the future together. Have you ever thought about the future without imagining him/her there? You you plan your lives independelndependently of each other? Does he/she ever tell you about her /his plan without thinking of you? It’s probably because you are not in the picture yet.
4. If you are relating from the position of need. If you need the relationship to survive. If you need to be in the relationship. Is is a dangerous thing if you enter a relationship because the lady/man is filling a particular emptyness in your life.it is really not a good sign if your happiness depends on another person. It makes your happiness dependent of the actions and inactions of another person. Also goes to the paerson who enters a relationship because he feels he needs to fix the other persons life. Remember, a relationship or marriage is not a tool for evangelism, neither is it a tool to change the other person. When the contract between the fixer and the fixed is finished or cannot work out, they will look for another challenge.
5. If there’s no Chemistry: chemistry or passion is what makes a friendship (commitment, intimacy) graduate into a love relationship. No relationship will last long if the love and passion in the relationship is one-sided. The giver one day will be tired of putting so much into the relationship without receiving love. Every strong relationship is built on mutual strength, companion friendships and support. There is also
6. If you lose nothing if you end the relationship, it’s probably not worth much to you. Your partner should serve as an important source of encouragement, strength and support. At every slight disagreement, if you think of leaving and can readily think of getting another guy/girl, you may probably do that soon. It is an indication that no value is being added in the relationship.
7. If you have not learnt to fight successfully. Fighting successfully means the ability to fight and take corrections, the ability to disagree and not allow that to destroy the fabric of your relationship. Most couples in the heat of argument say things they never meant and that signals the end of a wonderful relationship. Times and moments of anger brings out the hidden person within, and if the two people have not mastered the art of coping with that person, an end might be imminent too.
8. If you are not open to change and growth. Relationships bring about new challenges and there may be need to constantly become accustomed to attitudes, mindsets, thought patterns and people we never thought we could never thought we could never cope with. More importantly, we will need to change and grow, but if we are comfortable and rigid about our mindsets, perceptions and attitudes, you may soon have to create a relationship with them! Long lasting relationships are built on the ability to complement and adapt to each other and the situations as they come around.
9. If the person exhibits a behaviour that makes the relationship difficult to stay. There are behaviours and attitudes such as fits of rage, stubbornness, smoking,one partners’ undue submission to external influence. Or if your partner sees himself incapable of changing.

I’ve been working on the materials from the 4th strategy meeting of future movement. I must say we have made a great leap in our efforts of galvanizing (bring together) all change agents and organizations that will deliver the future. But then I will deliver that later…

I recently had a brief 4-hour chat with a younger friend of mine and we discovered she had only limited her potentials and personality by the parameters of her thoughts. Analysing peoples’ perceptions and feelings we can only trace it back to what ter thoughts have conditioned her to be. We do not see the world the way it is, we see it from where we are. I discovered that even I needed to pay attention to my system of thought.

Thinking is the talking of the soul. Thoughts are not just things; they are the force that that governs everything, everywhere, that is why they say ideas rule the world (I wrote on ideas rules the world, but then who rules ideas?). Sound ideas are a product of strategic practice of the thought process.

We think our thoughts are our own little private room where we can say anything, but then our consistent thoughts are obvious in our daily expression, on our faces, the way we behave and even our character. If you have ever disliked someone on sight you easily understand my logic. It affects the way you reason and hence affects your actions. I remember the story of the woman with the issue of blood who went to meet Jesus in the midst of a walking mob. After menstruating for 12 years, she could not have been walking straight, but Mat 9:21(AMP) recorded that she kept saying to herself, “if I only touch His garment, I shall be restored to health”, and she was. What have we been saying to ourselves?

”The economy is bad and it will affect me”, “I can’t sell anything”, “I think people just don’t like me”, “I cannot speak in public”, all these thoughts have continually done what we wanted them to do; they have conditioned our minds and faculties so fit into that mould. “Can’t” is one of English language’s strongest expressions – it means you lack the ideas to make it happen; or if an idea is given to you, you can’t see it, even if everything absolutely was placed into your hands or like a horse dragged into the sea, the possibility of drinking or providing results is simply nil- you simply won’t even if your life depended on it).

Our impossibilities are the limitations we have built in our minds. Whether you will have a strong personality or character is as a result of your habitual thought pattern. If your habitual thinking belittles you and puts you down, you will never develop courage and gusto to challenge it. Our talking to ourselves or thoughts reaches into our being and empowers our thinking to accommodate ideas, and to be able to generate solutions. I make it bold to say the kind of personalities we develop, is a product of our thought response to our family, experience, location, and sex dealings.

But then, when you determine to control your thoughts will you discover it is not a light work at all. I once took pride in joking that I can never succeed in selling hot water to an Eskimo, it was a joke but then it became my reality; I had to empty my bank account to buy a product and sell, to be able to defeat such mindset.

I will remember a quote I saw somewhere that when a person takes a knife and begins to slash himself until blood oozes out of his body, we shut him up in an asylum, but then most of us slash our mental shelves with daggers of different kinds- hatred, self condemnation, jealousy, doubt and fear and we think we are sane. A man/woman of the future will not lacerate himself with vicious thoughts. Every thought is a seed that produces a mental plant and action after the kind of seed. Life is just to us what we pay for. If you want to sow success and sound growth, you cannot afford to sow procrastination and laziness.

As we move on in time we’ll get to discover that those who think, rule. There is a great market need for more heads than hands, as a matter of fact the harder you work (physical exertion), the less you are valued/ paid.

Say to yourself today, I am what my thinking makes me.

Somehow, the thoughts in your life will inevitably speak out

The only way to get a different harvest is to begin to sow differently today.

I’m sitting  right now somewhere on the Island along Tiamiyu Savage, where the organization I work with, Visible Impact is holding a training on work force activation for one of the 24 recapitalized banks. Of course, the CEO, Fela Durotoye was in his element, dishing out instructions and insights to over 50 workers who were being energized for improved performance in marketing and general banking operations.
For the first time, I heard the story of his movement and achievements in Phillips Consulting. I intend to draw lessons from the beginning of his story. After concluding entry requirements, he was told he could not be a consultant even though he had an MBA, why? He had no work experience. Thus, he was offered a paltry NGN13, 000.
When he protested the salary, “I’m worth more than this!” the woman immediately told him 3 simple words “Prove your worth”.
In us lies a great potential of being God’s masterpiece. The power to do much more than I’m doing, much more than what people think you are worth. Your potential is not something you receive; it is a reserve that has always been. Have you ever been pushed to the end of your limits? Have you ever seen a thief being chased by a mob? Or have you ever been chased by a dog? It is amazing the things you can do if it was obvious your life depended on it- but then, it really does. It is possible to be the best you can ever be because you do not need more power, the power is within.
“Potential… potent (strength) tial (within) meaning. .  . (Inner strength)”
You are the one that comes to your potential. The day you did something that you naturally would not have done was because there was a demand on you to produce the results. This simple principle is also the hidden secret that geniuses and our perceived champions do not tell us; they have understood themselves and therefore know how to turn on this energy or drive to retrieve the kind of results they desire when they want. Needless to say, fela durotoye went on to become the great person he is today because, Phillips Consulting would testify, He came…
There is a grace within, which we can draw out to get the results we desire.  T he door of your potential opens up on you, when you cannot consider the option of failure. You exploit the possibilities of your potential when you accept responsibility and choose to give your best no matter what. The door of preparation ensures you draw out the potential consistently.
Test the limits of your potential!

There are lots of factors that make women more complex than men. Most guys in relationships spend a lot of time racking their heads and trying to figure out what their mate is thinking. My attempt will require some definitions so that my points can land on the right soil. There are many kinds of women- young, old, fat, skinny, talkative, quiet, Muslim, even Christians have qualifications… funky and geeks. Each category wants different things, different men for their different personalities and reasons. It’s enough to drive a man crazy. Kai!

I therefore need to qualify the kind of woman.

I mean women not girls - let’s clear that. I clearly think as a lady matures, the TDH syndrome (crush, mushy butterfly feelings…) gradually moves down the rung of her priorities that is why I generally advise young ladies not to make hasty choices at this stage of their lives… or why make a choice that will last as long as you are not yet wise. Most of them who make choices at this stage of their get to discover various aspects of their partner they never knew existed. Some guys have even been heartbroken because once the lady gets matured, the relationship becomes a prison and there has to be a jailbreak! But she said she loved me, what does she want anyway? One distinguishing feature is discernment- the ability to make good judgement devoid of emotions and sentiments. I love the bible verse that says, ‘’like a ring in a pigs snout, so is a maiden without discernment’, the MSG translation says “like a ring in a pig’s snout, so is a beautiful lady with an empty head.”

It is however better to focus on what real women want: the women who make guys feel good, and are able to motivate them to be  better men.

1. Men who are bold and decisive about their interests and beliefs.

There is something electric about a guy who is bold about his convictions. Some people women fall for people like this and say they love power, naa, they love passion. Inevitably, people who are passionate about what they do and believe in will succeed anyway. Secretly, women want their men to take the lead, take rational decisions and lock himself on his vision like a guided missile.

2. Women want a guy every lady wants.

Now I’m getting into troubled waters. This is known for a fact there is something attractive about a guy who has gathered immense value and most women will love to have him as a partner. Most men will agree that once they have a lady in a relationship, other women suddenly get interested in them. This has been responsible for lily-livered men hopping from one person to another in the hope of finding one better than the other. The truth is that there is a “must have” quality about a guy that makes a woman want him. To be wantable? Just be a guy that women love to spend their time with.

3. Man who makes her second on her commitment list

This is again contestable, but then though every woman wants to be appreciated, loved and dotted over, she will never appreciate a man obsessed with her. A guy who ever tells a lady she is the number one on his life list dangerously communicates a message to the lady; it is a risky venture to trust you- you are either too weak or just a freaking liar. Your obsession or insecurity drives women away faster.

A lady loves you more if she sees you value your faith, principles and integrity above her. It probably secures her trust and commitment. Every man should commit himself to something greater than fulfilling the needs of one person. There is an innate desire for any couple to commit themselves to something higher- a higher calling, value, ideals and God.

4. A man who is not threatened.

Believe me, not all women want every guy they meet to be worth millions of cash, look like Denzel Washington, built like Sylvester Stallone and talks like Beckham. They don’t expect you to be threatened by the achievements of the woman. They want a relationship where they will be allowed space to dream and be supported by their man. They want to know that their man supports them. There is no pride for a lady who has amassed a lot of fame and wealth, but then the husband is dying daily under the weight of her status. It’s hurting for a lady whose dream is being limited because the guy refuses to fly.

Women want a guy who will be their coach in life and not a competitor. But they DO want you to be headed towards success. They DO want you to have direction and pursuing it, not one looking back to see if the woman is catching up. Not feeling threatened because the he did not get a job. Hey they really do not want a guy mopping but as long as you’re heading towards your goals in life, you’re bound to attract women. And more importantly, reach your own personal success.

5. A feeling of security.

Women want to feel safe with a man. They want to know that everything’s gonna be all right. This doesn’t mean you have to be strong and bossy, or have millions of cash. It just means you have to talk reassuringly to her, look after her safety, and assure her when she needs it that things are going to be OK.

It also means offering protection, when she needs it. If she’s being threatened, defend her territory.

6. Express love actively.

Women love men who appreciate and express their love actively. They want to see, and not only see, they also want to hear your confession of love. A man is an active giver of love, not a passive receiver. Nowhere in the entire Bible did the Bible say that the woman should love the man, it says she should respect her- it is the duty of the man to love.

Not just in Gifts, but your all; time, energy, words, service and in any way possible to demonstrate the profession of love. Women want a man who is intelligent yet sensitive and kind to their emotional needs. It is an important characteristic that imply the man will share his resources and continue reliably protecting and caring for the family in all future unforeseen circumstances.

7. Women want men who admit they are human and can make mistakes.

Women desperately want a man to prove himself woman. The era of a man being the textbook superman is over and the ability to be true to their feelings and expressing their admission of guilt is an attractive magnet. He doesn’t run and hide from the tests of fear. He turns toward them and engages them boldly. If he fails at anything he seeks support and affirmation from the wife. His lady becomes his succour, the one proof that he can succeed if he ever tries again. To prove being a 21^st century Superman is to deny a woman of her role in being supportive of the man.

I think I’ll stop here, I have a meeting in Shagamu tomorrow…

N.B.:- am getting my numbers mixed up… all corrected!

The tagging finally got to me! I had  seen in while a couple of my friends were hustling to write and I was wondering if I could ever write anything about myself up to 25 points.

Finally, I was tagged on my facebook page and I decided tompaste it right here.

1. If I ever make it to 25, I’ll list it as one of my greatest accomplishments of today!

2. One of the things you might readily notice when you meet me, Is that I smile a lot. In spite of anything, I never stop laughing.

2. My most painful day was the day a lecturer, in a bid to prove I was cheating, picked a newspaper clipping and said I was copying from It. of course, his wisdom made me laugh!

2. One of the few things I hate doing Is talking about myself.

3. I spend more time solving other people’s problem than mine, what an irony!

4. I spend more than a whole day thinking of what to blog about and less than an hour writing it.

5. I once broke a guy’s arm while trying to show him how to use aikido skills to breaking bones!

6. When asked what side I love to sleep on- I didn’t know, I rarely sleep, I usually doze off! Even the last time I slept on my bed and in a nice way was December 6th last year. (It a new year decision to sleep on my bed)

7. Though I don’t talk much, the longest I have spent gisting with a friend was 9 hours! – and no, not my fiancée.

8. About my best food, there has always been a tie among Bread, garri and beans. So most times I take them together! I really don’t know which but in an order; beans, bread and garrI.

9. Cowbell chocolate, garrI and groundnut should give me an award. I used to take them together every day for more than ten years!

10. My most fearful day was when I stood In the midst of OAU Student Union guys and threatened to turn the whole school on them. It was 3am, we were two, and they were 14- looking dangerous and armed!- I did!

11. The most Important topics I love discussing are politics and relationships.

12. I did a lot of home work before asking Martha out. I needed to be sure before asking, I wouldn’t survive a no!

13. I once had a relationship that lasted nine months (like 5 years ago). We had the rare privilege of organizing a break-up dinner!
14. The quotation “just few” was my mantra for many years- It still is.
F- There are five things you need to watch out for in life (see me In camera)
E- Men are looking for examples to follow, God Is looking for an example to show men. I intend to be the one on both sides.
W- The woman Is God’s secret weapon of changing the world

14. You’re right; marriage is one of the most important things I think of

15. I graduated from OAU after passing through 3 departments. Well, maybe it was not really necessary, but I did.

16. Because I have four siblings, we call ourselves THE FAMOUS FIVE (remember that book?)

17. When I was in medical school most people believed I would not practice medicine- except me!

18. In one single year 2004, I failed at so many things so much so I thought it must be a movie!

19. Some people say you must seek for a wife, but then the Bible says a prudent wife is from the Lord. I didn’t look for Martha, I discovered her. Martha was God’s gift in my life, and it came at a critical time. Don’t be surprised- my love for her keeps growing.

20.  I went to two secondary schools. In one there was no Christian fellowship, so we formed one.
When I got to the second one, there was a fellowship- but I always seemed to be absconding.
21. My laptop’s name is”Agbeke”

22. I never succeeded at being a good footballer. My team always wanted me to be the last man, and the opposing teams always never want me to be an opponent.

23. The first time I spoke to a very large crowd of people (over 500).  Seeing the large crowd, my first words were, o o  o  o God- I was speaking into the microphone.
24. One of the things I ‘m always grateful to God for is that I’ve never lacked people who believed in me. I’ve never lacked people who told me they were sure I was coming out shinning…I’m so surprised how I’m turning out.

25. I couldn’t stop at 24, so am glad I made it!

See ya!